Common Courtesy

I think this is equivalent to common sense, neither are common.

Let’s pretend we do want to exhibit common courtesy, what would that look like to you in April 2020?

  1. Stay home unless you absolutely have to go out.
  2. Wash your hands.
  3. Mind your business.
  4. Do your homework.
  5. Help out where you can.
  6. Don’t get on anyone’s nerves.
  7. If you are out, give people their space.
  8. Cover your mouth!
  9. Better yet, shut your mouth.
  10. Share funny tasteful things on social media– we need it.

Social Media

Facebook made me really dislike them after the 2016 election meddling and false published narratives. I decided to abandon all social media at some point. All except, WhatsApp, Instagram, YouTube, and Twitter … so maybe I didn’t actually abandon it. Better yet, I decided to limit my social media use.

You probably could tell from this blog site and posts that I’d already given up blogging. That’s okay, the more I hone or rehash my skills- the better I’ll become.

My current husband is from a different country and one significant difference in our cultures is how married people use or SHOULD use social media. We’ve been separated for a long period of time waiting for a US visa. He hasn’t had any presence on social media since the day we were married.

Our visa approval has been under administrative processing for as long as I care to say, however during COVID-19, the consulate found time to refuse our request for a second time. Talking about being under pressure- whew!

I learned when a married couple (according to him) is separated (for any reason) need to monitor their behavior and representation. That means they are apart from each other, the other should behave themselves with more caution than they would if together. And limiting your presence on social media is the one way I want to address especially since I learned he now has an IG account. (Where’s an emoji when you need one?)

I have to follow the algorithm outlined in Personal Pandemic.

Administrative Processing: Start where you are.

Start where you are.

It’s been said that when you lose something, you always find it in the last place you look. Obviously, but funny. Today I feel as though I found my solution at the end of my problem. You know how things just seem to CLICK. Things that have been there all along seem to appear out of nowhere. Why does it take us so long to realize what’s so simple?

As I write this, I cannot help by smile and laugh – probably because I know I’m not alone and that makes me feel human and relatable.

I was washing my dishes and listening to an audiobook when I remembered I hadn’t yet done the things I know have been in my heart and on my mind to do. Yet, I constantly pray and ask God to do His part while refusing to do mine.

I’m praying for a visa and praying that God will save and protect my marriage by allowing us to reunite quickly. Months ago, I felt in my spirit that since I married a man younger than me that I need to take care of my health and body to enjoy a longer life with him. I lied and said I would do just that – get my body in shape and make healthier choices daily. Instead, I dabbled in fads and made excuses or plain ignored what I should do and surrendered to laziness.

I also knew that what I’m experiencing now due to this visa delay, many others are tackling the same problem but without the joy I have inside. So, I decided to encourage all who care to hear and want to grow through this season of life. I won’t keep my deliverance and joy to myself. I’m full. I’m married to a Moroccan and all they do (from what I’ve witnessed) is share! In keeping with that custom, I’ll do the same.

Finally, I think because I’ve been so bored and frustrated in waiting and the enemy of my soul couldn’t attack me in too many ways – I’ve been loose in my spending habits. Spending very unnecessarily. I’m done with promising God, my children, and myself that this is the last month I will be wasteful. I have enough perfume, sneakers, gadgets, books, music, purses, and athletic wear. The line is drawn.

What have you been commissioned to do while you wait on what you’ve been praying for? How long will you wait to do what you should while you wait? As much as I don’t want to prolong my blessing and deliverance, I don’t want to prolong the things I need to do. I’ve started. And I’ve taken away your excuse. Follow my example, don’t put it off. Let’s go!

Administrative Processing: Frustration


Yep, that’s what I’m going through right now. Administrative Processing.

I would tell you more about it if I knew more about it. I’ve searched and searched, but not getting the answers I want.  Notice I didn’t say I wasn’t getting any answers.  That’s how it is in life. We’d rather be frustrated than chill when we don’t have what we want. And what we want is NOW. No matter what it is that we want – we want it now.

I plan to tell you more about Administrative Processing in layman’s terms primarily later because I’m still learning. So, I’ll dissect it enough to comprehend and relay. This gives me the opportunity to help the next person or people that have to deal with this or any delay as well as distract me from the frustration of it all.

What I can tell you now is it’s time for your girl to walk the walk she’s been talking all these years. Ready to watch me? I’m ready to show you how to handle your frustrations in a healthy way.