Shoulda Woulda Coulda

I told him when I first thought about moving my own cheese, I couldn’t see how I could stop working a 9 to 5 to pursue what I enjoyed doing and I didn’t know how I could capitalize on any of it.

Speaking with my career coach yesterday while he was trying to get to the nitty-gritty to explore my passions, I realized they hadn’t changed in years. 

  • My Faith 
  • Traveling 
  • Food 
  • Shopping 
  • Writing 

For as long as I can remember this list has remained the same. 

I told him when I first thought about moving my own cheese, I couldn’t see how I could stop working a 9 to 5 to pursue what I enjoyed doing and I didn’t know how I could capitalize on any of it. 

As the years passed, I’ve seen person after person show me how much profit and satisfaction could come from any one of the things I’ve listed. 

Faith– I kept boxes of index cards where I jotted down notes from sermons and books, ideas, inspirations, scriptures, and songs to refer to from time to time when needed depending on a challenging situation I faced or to use as an encouragement for someone else. The idea was to take the text from the cards and add a picture that coincided with the message to make posters, magnets, artwork, and other sources for showcasing. 

Travel– my fantasy was to be able to travel worldwide and write honest reviews about the modes of transportation, the lodging accommodations, and the food. Being a travel agent or a tour guide would be a great avenue to fulfill this dream. 

Food– Because I am a lover of food (I don’t know the correct terminology—I’ll look it up now.) I’m a self-described foodie. Yeah, I love food and at times I’ve made horrible choices because I was drawn and addicted to the chemicals in processed foods. I also like enjoyed fried, high fat, loads of sugar, cholesterol laden dishes, and delicacies that caused me to gain excessive weight. It took some retraining to acquire a taste for the foods that are good for me yet tasty.  

In my journey of discovery, I became a vegan when it wasn’t popular and there was no Beyond Meat or Impossible. Back then it was more of a joke, or you were considered freakish- now it’s the “in” thing. But, in those days you couldn’t easily find vegan choices in restaurants, convenient stores, or grocery stores. So, my idea was to put vegan vending machines everywhere but in 2022 that’s no longer an issue because the vegan population has grown enough to get the big manufacturers’ attention. 

Shopping– Who does not like to shop? LOTS of people don’t like to shop. Being the oldest child in a household of 6, I had to take or make lots of trips to the supermarket. I think I went to the store so much that I found more joy in it than a normal person should have. I also had a job working for a company that urged excellent customer service from all employees. I had the best training in all my years of employment. That experience made me love shopping even more. I also get pleasure in finding a good bargain. Anywho I thought I could offer to shop for people, and they would pay me for the service. But who would think of that as a business? I don’t know, maybe INSTACART

Writing– I love to write and I love to read. One small problem is when I’m reading for leisure, I sometimes find myself editing more than reading. I find it encouraging though and it makes me unafraid to put myself out there because even big-name publishers mess up. So, I’ve conjured a novel and even written some children’s books based on my own grandchildren and lessons I want them to learn and practice along the way. I thought it would be fantastic to see an array of books that represented my children and their culture. You might find this hard to believe but these books can be found any and everywhere now. 

There might be other interests I have and have yet to articulate because I might not even realize it. But I don’t want to see something else that I’d love to do go undone for fear of failure or disapproval. 

Take it from me if there is one legal and moral thing that you get lost in doing and would do for free, pursue it. 

Social Media

Facebook made me really dislike them after the 2016 election meddling and false published narratives. I decided to abandon all social media at some point. All except, WhatsApp, Instagram, YouTube, and Twitter … so maybe I didn’t actually abandon it. Better yet, I decided to limit my social media use.

You probably could tell from this blog site and posts that I’d already given up blogging. That’s okay, the more I hone or rehash my skills- the better I’ll become.

My current husband is from a different country and one significant difference in our cultures is how married people use or SHOULD use social media. We’ve been separated for a long period of time waiting for a US visa. He hasn’t had any presence on social media since the day we were married.

Our visa approval has been under administrative processing for as long as I care to say, however during COVID-19, the consulate found time to refuse our request for a second time. Talking about being under pressure- whew!

I learned when a married couple (according to him) is separated (for any reason) need to monitor their behavior and representation. That means they are apart from each other, the other should behave themselves with more caution than they would if together. And limiting your presence on social media is the one way I want to address especially since I learned he now has an IG account. (Where’s an emoji when you need one?)

I have to follow the algorithm outlined in Personal Pandemic.

Administrative Processing: Frustration


Yep, that’s what I’m going through right now. Administrative Processing.

I would tell you more about it if I knew more about it. I’ve searched and searched, but not getting the answers I want.  Notice I didn’t say I wasn’t getting any answers.  That’s how it is in life. We’d rather be frustrated than chill when we don’t have what we want. And what we want is NOW. No matter what it is that we want – we want it now.

I plan to tell you more about Administrative Processing in layman’s terms primarily later because I’m still learning. So, I’ll dissect it enough to comprehend and relay. This gives me the opportunity to help the next person or people that have to deal with this or any delay as well as distract me from the frustration of it all.

What I can tell you now is it’s time for your girl to walk the walk she’s been talking all these years. Ready to watch me? I’m ready to show you how to handle your frustrations in a healthy way.